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revitalizedhusband · 07-02-2009, 10:18 AM

People say they want a 50/50 marriage, but thats truly only when its going good, and when it fits what they want. No one seems to want 50/50 when things are bad or someone in the relationship is having issues (like your husband).

As a married couple, your problems are supposed to be his problems, and his problems are supposed to be your problems. You are supposed to work together not only on the good parts of the marriage, but also the bad.

What am I getting at? Well, just telling him "you can't do that anymore" might not be enough. You need to work with him (not by yourself alone as you are believing others on here are suggesting) to figure out what needs to happen for his behavior to stop.

You can't change a symptom (the bad behavior) if you don't know the cause.

Who knows, in the back of his mind he may resent you for something you did to him and that has caused his behavior towards you to change.

07-02-2009, 10:18 AM	#16 (permalink)
revitalizedhusband Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 700	Re: When He Changes People say they want a 50/50 marriage, but thats truly only when its going good, and when it fits what they want. No one seems to want 50/50 when things are bad or someone in the relationship is having issues (like your husband). As a married couple, your problems are supposed to be his problems, and his problems are supposed to be your problems. You are supposed to work together not only on the good parts of the marriage, but also the bad. What am I getting at? Well, just telling him "you can't do that anymore" might not be enough. You need to work with him (not by yourself alone as you are believing others on here are suggesting) to figure out what needs to happen for his behavior to stop. You can't change a symptom (the bad behavior) if you don't know the cause. Who knows, in the back of his mind he may resent you for something you did to him and that has caused his behavior towards you to change.