Re: eldest turning 18 and at the end of my rope
Just remember everyone has a point of view in a situation. What ever it is that your son has seen has influenced how he is. Coming from a divided house often means that parents do not act together with unity when making decisions for their children.
Your eldest may also have many other issues that have not been addressed. He may blame himself, you or your husband for the divorce and depending on how life became after the divorce he may blame that on said person(s) too.
He may not want/need your husband to be a second dad or a friend which he may feel was pushed on him.
He might also just be doing the typical rebellion thing.
If you are going to talk to him anyways I think you should ask him for his point of view and tell him that while his rebellion makes him stand out now it can affect him in his very near future and that you are worried about him and want to be there for him.
draconis
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