| | Re: Time to end it?
Hey, I've been called a pyscho sociopath and a narcissist, along with being told by my wife that I have mental problems. I've been in my marriage for 23+ years and I didn't know what 'normal' was anymore. I've also been told that I'm responsible for 80-90% of the downfall of our marriage.
Over the 23 years, I often expressed my hurt over an action or some words directed at me. In most cases, it was always me misinterpreting or misrepresenting what happened. Soon, I started to doubt my own feelings.
In the past 6 months, I decided to wake up. I decided MY feelings were just that - MY FEELINGS. I started to not care what the "intent" of the action was, I concentrated more of what the impact was - Hurt. No one knows what my feelings are except ME.
The counselor also did a great job helping me to realize it's okay to have feelings. Before, I always felt my feelings were minimized by my spouse.
Stay strong, confident, and see a counselor. It will help.
D8zed and Confused