Browncoat

I should mention too, that the frustration doesn't just come from the fact that I didn't "get any" the past 3-4 days.

It comes also in part because well over half the times my wife is done so far before me that I end up masturbating for well over half the sexual encounter... at times it feels like vaginally augmented masturbation. The sex just doesn't satisfy when it ends like this.

It comes because often times I can tell my wife's heart just isn't in it at all, no matter how much foreplay love and affection I shower on her. I appreciate that she tries, I think it's so very sweet of her... but there's that general feeling that she doesn't care. The worst part is that it's because she doesn't care about sex, though she does about me. She doesn't want sex, while she goes along with it... her heart is only in it about 4-6x/year. She achieves orgasms and is pleased by it, but she still just doesn't care.

It's because often times we get started, foreplay is fun and exciting and then we stop because it hurts during penetration.

It's all that and probably things that aren't coming to mind atm.

I know I shouldn't let it bother as much as it does... but it does and the feelings are strong (which is something I hope to address with the ST).