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Gratitude · 04-13-2012, 07:49 AM

I first saw my husband when I was 19. I knew the second I laid eyes on him that he was the one. I didn't marry him until my mid twenties though.

I know you are going ahead with the marriage, and that is your choice. It could all work out, or it couldn't. The odds are stacked against you, so what you want to do is to make sure you know exactly what you're doing and be as prepared as you can be. Being in your own place, or at least financially stable enough to get one soon on your own would be ideal. Focus ahead on that, and try to deal with your soon to be mother in law with maturity and as calmly as you can. Stand firm on your decisions. You will be able to put your foot down a lot more when you're not living under her roof. She's going to be in your life for a long time now so do your best to maintain a relationship.

Seriously, you're 17. You don't want to listen to anybody because you're 17. Everybody posting here surely can remember that feeling? So don't attack her, all you can do at this point is to give her advice and hope she stores it away for later.

Good luck with the wedding, and saving up for your own place. Keep focused on the two of you, make sure you are financially secure (as in steady jobs and hopefully some savings) before having children. Live as much of your life as you can before you settle down and do the family thing. Plenty, plenty of time. Don't rush into everything adults do because once you become one, you can't go back.

Ignore anyone you feel is being nasty, but store away any good advice you have read for later. It may come in handy. People are trying to help in their own funny way. Best of luck to you both.

04-13-2012, 07:49 AM	#130 (permalink)
Gratitude Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Australia Posts: 686	Re: Newlyweds I first saw my husband when I was 19. I knew the second I laid eyes on him that he was the one. I didn't marry him until my mid twenties though. I know you are going ahead with the marriage, and that is your choice. It could all work out, or it couldn't. The odds are stacked against you, so what you want to do is to make sure you know exactly what you're doing and be as prepared as you can be. Being in your own place, or at least financially stable enough to get one soon on your own would be ideal. Focus ahead on that, and try to deal with your soon to be mother in law with maturity and as calmly as you can. Stand firm on your decisions. You will be able to put your foot down a lot more when you're not living under her roof. She's going to be in your life for a long time now so do your best to maintain a relationship. Seriously, you're 17. You don't want to listen to anybody because you're 17. Everybody posting here surely can remember that feeling? So don't attack her, all you can do at this point is to give her advice and hope she stores it away for later. Good luck with the wedding, and saving up for your own place. Keep focused on the two of you, make sure you are financially secure (as in steady jobs and hopefully some savings) before having children. Live as much of your life as you can before you settle down and do the family thing. Plenty, plenty of time. Don't rush into everything adults do because once you become one, you can't go back. Ignore anyone you feel is being nasty, but store away any good advice you have read for later. It may come in handy. People are trying to help in their own funny way. Best of luck to you both. __________________ Bears play fighting at the Romanian bear sanctuary © WSPA