| | Re: I want sex once a month - why should I have it more often?
I don't think anyone should be calling you selfish. Not everyone has the same sex drive, and sex drive is not something we have a lot of control over. You have a good lover in a husband, and if you are having sex three times a week, I think that is generous of you under the circumstances. Many men would be thrilled if their wives were willing to have sex three times a week. Of course if it's a chore to you, that's not good, but are there rewards for you? The more I have sex with my husband, the more cheerful he is, the more likely he is to try to please me in other ways (like helping around the house), and the more likely he is to give me things like a back rub. As for your original question, although I feel that no woman should have sex if she doesn't want to, I'd try to continue with at least twice a week and think of it as rewarding in other ways. Also, you are young. Your sex drive will likely increase as you approach 40, and his might wane as he gets older - look on the bright side - you might meet in the middle in ten or fifteen years!