04-13-2012, 11:25 AM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | Re: I want sex once a month - why should I have it more often?
Originally Posted by PBear
I'm curious about the pre-marital sex life question as well...
So if sex is that unimportant to you, you wouldn't mind him outsourcing it to someone else then? Someone who finds him attractive, sexual, and doesn't mind "cleaning up" after? So long as you get yours once a month, it should all be good, right? Because sex has nothing to do with building and maintaining an emotional connection... And it IS your body, so you're entitled to do what you want with it. But by the same logic, he should be able to take HIS body out to the local meat market and have wild kinky monkey sex with whatever skank he finds interesting...
It IS a reasonable expectation that once people get married, there will be a "healthy" sex life, in my opinion. After all, you vow monogamy, not celibacy. At at once a month, you're flirting with a sexless marriage. Give you another 5 years, and I wouldn't be surprised that you're down to once every six months.
My recommendation... Figure out what's going on. Hormonal birth control (or hormone issues in general) can wreak havoc on your sex drive. Have you had that checked out, to ensure there's nothing physical causing the issue?
Just my thoughts... Marriage is a whole lot of compromising we do to maintain a relationship with someone we love and chose to be with. If you can't work out a compromise on an issue, that's where the big conflicts occur.
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sometimes once a month is all the mate can give at the time...life is full of changes....you just never know what will happen...