Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - I want sex once a month

tnhusband · 04-13-2012, 02:51 PM

marieJa - as a high libido husband with a sometimes low libido spouse I can understand why the board tends to ride you about being happy just giving your husband sex. But I doubt that is what your husband really wants or likes.

I don't want sex 20 times a month if 19 of those times my wife is not into it and just doing it to be nice to me. Every now and again I can understand - but I want the kind of sexlife where my wife is into it - into me.

So my proposed solution for you is this - find out what increases your libido. Find out what turns you on. And then make yourself get turned on so when you are with your husband you are in the mood.

Only you can figure out what that is - it could be something simple like reading a book that arouses you, watching something on TV/Internet, wearing something etc.

Or it could be something out there - either in a fetish way or something non-sexual that makes you happy and turns you on.

Thats what a giving and loving spouse should do in my opinion. Find the passion within you. It's probably there - you know it is once a month - so you have something to build on!

04-13-2012, 02:51 PM	#132 (permalink)
tnhusband Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 32	Re: I want sex once a month - why should I have it more often? marieJa - as a high libido husband with a sometimes low libido spouse I can understand why the board tends to ride you about being happy just giving your husband sex. But I doubt that is what your husband really wants or likes. I don't want sex 20 times a month if 19 of those times my wife is not into it and just doing it to be nice to me. Every now and again I can understand - but I want the kind of sexlife where my wife is into it - into me. So my proposed solution for you is this - find out what increases your libido. Find out what turns you on. And then make yourself get turned on so when you are with your husband you are in the mood. Only you can figure out what that is - it could be something simple like reading a book that arouses you, watching something on TV/Internet, wearing something etc. Or it could be something out there - either in a fetish way or something non-sexual that makes you happy and turns you on. Thats what a giving and loving spouse should do in my opinion. Find the passion within you. It's probably there - you know it is once a month - so you have something to build on!