Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Whats the big deal with an EA? (EA vs PA Question)

the guy · 04-13-2012, 02:51 PM

In most cases,ya the EA leads up to PA, but the emotional connection made between to poeple is worse then two poeple screwing around and never see each other again.

It suck to use poeple just for sex, a little companionship but when AP start showing feelings and you bail b/c there getting to close.....well thats a real good thing if its your spouse that is doing the using and bails. Kinda.LOL

In short sex is sex, and its this thinking I had that gave me a unhealthy marriage. And it also this thinking that saved it. In a small part.

Sure I'm wired different them most but my wife did what she did for the companionship and the cost for that was sex. Did she ever love them no, was there an emotional connection... sure, but at the end of the day were did that connection lead to? No were. The connection in my wifes affairs started up as quick as they ended.

In my research,I took a years worth of cell phone usage and put them in a Excel program and was able to coillate different values and I found that contact only lasted for a week. in some case I could tell were emotion was involved but at best is was a month of contact.

My point is, I'm in the crowd of EA is worse then PA. But in the same breath is quantity any better then quality, when it comes to your spouse sleeping around?

04-13-2012, 02:51 PM	#46 (permalink)
the guy Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: CA Posts: 7,307	Re: Whats the big deal with an EA? (EA vs PA Question) In most cases,ya the EA leads up to PA, but the emotional connection made between to poeple is worse then two poeple screwing around and never see each other again. It suck to use poeple just for sex, a little companionship but when AP start showing feelings and you bail b/c there getting to close.....well thats a real good thing if its your spouse that is doing the using and bails. Kinda.LOL In short sex is sex, and its this thinking I had that gave me a unhealthy marriage. And it also this thinking that saved it. In a small part. Sure I'm wired different them most but my wife did what she did for the companionship and the cost for that was sex. Did she ever love them no, was there an emotional connection... sure, but at the end of the day were did that connection lead to? No were. The connection in my wifes affairs started up as quick as they ended. In my research,I took a years worth of cell phone usage and put them in a Excel program and was able to coillate different values and I found that contact only lasted for a week. in some case I could tell were emotion was involved but at best is was a month of contact. My point is, I'm in the crowd of EA is worse then PA. But in the same breath is quantity any better then quality, when it comes to your spouse sleeping around?