BrokenFrag

Well, I stumbled upon a love letter and a poem from my wife's paramour. It is the kind of thing that I wrote to her when I was 19. It was all about how nobody understood him until now. He didn't know what love was until now. She makes him strong. He loves her for who he is with her. He sees her passion, her compassion, all the love she has in her. He wants to spend his life with her. His poem was actually pretty good.

And she fell for it. It is like they are two lovesick teenagers. She is 30, he is 24. She is married, he has a child that he is fighting for custody over with his soon to be exwife. They both have security clearances for the Department of Defense and are otherwise responsible adults. They are not kids. This isn't the time in life where you think a crush means ultimate compatibility for forever. You don't just dump your husband of 8 years because some cute guy from your office writes you a love letter and a poem.

Here I was thinking that I needed to dance a little better or lose a couple pounds. She doesn't want me to make her jealous. She wants me to sweep her off her feet again. She wants to feel what we had during our honeymoon. How can I do that by hitting on women? I can reintroduce romance, passion, excitement, but it is impossible to replicate the intense puppy love that she is feeling right now. It is a hormonal thing that happens to all of us at the beginning of a relationship.

I would just be making a fool out of myself while she makes a fool out of me.

Is this a woman that I should even try to win back? Someone who flakes out on our marriage the first time some good looking guy writes her a poem? I always treated her with as much love and respect as I knew how. I was there for her during her physical ailments, I was there during her bouts with depression. That is real love, that is constant. That isn't puppy love or whatever she thinks she has.

So what if I win her back again. Will I have to do this all over again when another guy comes along?