swedish

I agree people can change. It usually requires hitting the lowest of low points where they finally realize they need to change for the sake of their own being. If she feels that she is about to lose the only one who's been there for her over the years and she knows it's largely due to the way she's handled situations in the past, she can change if she's done feeling the way it makes her feel and no longer wants the status quo. You shouldn't need to wait a year (or waste a year) to find out. If she is serious about working on your marriage, you should see her effort from the get go because the first step for her will be to open up to you and share what she's been feeling. You can only build on what you acknowledge and discuss & the more supportive and understanding you are, the more apt she will be to share, listen and grow.