BrokenFrag

I know it is wrong, but I am envious of you, Swedish. Your husband instantly saw what a fool he had been and is working hard to earn your love and trust back.

My wife still hasn't decided if the "love" she feels for this guy is just a crush or if it is something more, something we cannot have. Maybe her hesitation is a sign that she just doesn't have what it takes to see reality for what it is. Maybe it is a sign for me to let her live the way she thinks she must and to get on with my life.

I hope, Draconis, that I will be as fortunate as you are to have found a second, and better shot at love after your first marriage.

I have my eyes wide open now, and will never make the same mistakes again, but it is hard to believe that I will get a second chance. The loneliness that I feel right now, even though I am still married and share a bed with my wife makes the thought of being completely alone nearly unbearable.

I will give her some time to show me that she really cares. If she can't, then she will have to really hit rock bottom and lose the only person who has always been there for her. I still don't think she and the other guy have a shot at long term happiness because of the way she is and the way they started, but I guess that will no longer be any of my business.

I just hope she can be classy enough to not go to him right away. That she will allow me to pick up the pieces of my life in dignity and peace. Don't know if that is realistic to hope for after the way she has already treated me.

Thank you all for your support and advice. It has been immeasurably valuable to me, and I am not sure I would be handling it as well (ha!) as I am now were it not for you sharing your thoughts and situations.