CantThinkOfAJUserName

Sadly there are some of us betrayed who instead of being honest with ourselves and acknowledge that it is too much to endure living with a spouse who has betrayed us, file for divorce and move on with our lives, choose to instead stay with the betraying spouse and to throw the affair(s) in our spouse's face every time there is a disagreement in the marriage. Reconciliation without forgiveness is no way to live for either spouse.

The good Lord knows that my ex-wife tried her best to help me heal from her affairs and become the best wife she could but it was too much for me to endure and I knew that the bitterness in my heart would eventually grow and transform me into a hateful and bitter man. So I made the painful choice to divorce her and even though it broke my heart to see her crying and pleading with me to give her another chance, I knew that it was the right decision. It was a tough call because both of us had a shared history that spanned 25 years with grown children. It's been 7 years since the divorce became final but in that time I have healed and so has my ex-wife and we now have a much better relationship than during all those years that we were married. We may not be friends but we are certainly not enemies.