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Having a unhealthy marriage is 50/50, so it both your fault. But the adultory is 100% hers.
If she doesn't face the consequence what will prevent her from repeating this kind of behavior?
Honestly, I havn't heard one pit of remorse from your wife. She contiues to blameshift and has not owned her own crap in this affair.
Stay strong b/c you can not control your WW continued behavior in running away from the unhealthy choices she made.
Her infidelity is not your fault!
Can you see her rewriting the marriage history, the blameshifting, the lack of taking reponsablity, and avoiding the consequences?
Do not beg for your marriage, she has yet to show you true remorse. Yes distance your self and time will tell if she is truely remoresful or finds another man to validate her, all the while giving her space.
I will also tell you until you scare the crap out of her with divorce papers she will see you as the husband that lets her get away with her cheating and she has the control in the marriage.
Shift the power and serve her with papers, showing her you are confident enough to let her go, if she can not own her part in this marriage *and* except/face her adultoruos ways.
It all most seems like the affair is still going on but deeper under ground by the way she is acting.
man, she has no remores, stop being managed.
Last edited by the guy; 04-16-2012 at 03:02 PM.