Originally Posted by Conrad
It's what we HOPED they were.
In the end, our delusions are about us -not them.
That's why they're so difficult to surmount.
I realized it when someone told me I was idolizing my spouse.
It's about what ideas we put in our heads. They can cloud our perception of reality.
How to lessen emotional attachment? Distance, no contact, a lot of time that goes by, staying busy, and avoid thinking about them (easier said than done!).