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eyesopen · 04-17-2012, 11:57 PM

I have a question about the 180. OK, basically I understand it's logic and appreciate, really, all the points mentioned. I can see how, perhaps, it would make a difference if a wife was say hurting but not totally gone in her mind. But I am wondering if it is applicable in my situation. My wife is a WAW, not interested in trying, and prefers not to even discuss trying (since she says it shows I do not respect her decision....). She says she does not love me any more, and realized that this has been her state for the last 1-2 years.

So I have two questions:

1. In such a case, does the 180 stand a chance? Or is she too far gone?

2. If you do the 180, does that not send a signal that "hey, he is OK, coping, getting on with life" and therefore she will think that everything is "OK" and I am getting over her and no longer interested in reconciliation?

04-17-2012, 11:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
eyesopen Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 47	Few questions on the 180 I have a question about the 180. OK, basically I understand it's logic and appreciate, really, all the points mentioned. I can see how, perhaps, it would make a difference if a wife was say hurting but not totally gone in her mind. But I am wondering if it is applicable in my situation. My wife is a WAW, not interested in trying, and prefers not to even discuss trying (since she says it shows I do not respect her decision....). She says she does not love me any more, and realized that this has been her state for the last 1-2 years. So I have two questions: 1. In such a case, does the 180 stand a chance? Or is she too far gone? 2. If you do the 180, does that not send a signal that "hey, he is OK, coping, getting on with life" and therefore she will think that everything is "OK" and I am getting over her and no longer interested in reconciliation?