Re: Can anyone save another? Can I save my wife?
SImple answer to your question, no. You can not save another person from themselves. My wife is going for her psychology major and I help her study all the time. The best suggestions is to ask questions to let the person find the answers themselves.
As for others around her think this way. They are damned either way. If they point out what she is doing wrong they loss a friend. If they go along with it they let her hurt herself. I had many friends that were just that way and finally I stopped hanging around them for fear they'd drag me down.
Now more to the point is does she really need to be saved and would it be better for her or just you. If she felt no love in the relationship she might have built up enough resentment that nothing can fix it and you will always be to blame where her new bf is a clean slate.
Her quitting smoking etc while good physically may also cause her stress again blamed on you.
It is never worth trying to save someone because only they can do it for themselves and really they might not want your saving. Behavior is much like religion. How would you feel if some religious person wanted to save your soul for you when you didn't even believe in the principles of there religion?
draconis
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