mommy22

If she is wiiling to work on the marriage, would she be willing to go to counseling with you? It probably wouldn't work coming from you, but I guarantee a good counselor would tell her to cut all ties from that guy. She would most likely be advised to switch jobs. I, too, had tried to cut ties numerous times but he was very persistent. I'm ignoring him completely now and the more times goes by the more I loathe the fact that he pursued me. I'm even madder at myself for falling for it. Personally, I hope I never see him again. If an objective party could just talk her into separating herself for a couple of weeks, she'd see this all for what it really is. I can tell by your post that she's still holding onto her life with you. She has to get away from him, but unfortunately it sounds as though she's not going to be willing to hear that from you. It sounds like you may have to walk on eggshells a little to get her to go, but see if she's willing to talk to a counselor. (Please forgive me if you've already done all this with her and I missed it. I tried to read through your post but I'm new to the forum.)