Originally Posted by CallaLily
I think sex is important in a relationship. Do I think its the be all to end all? Nope. I do think some people come across as they will die without it.
If in fact thats how they feel and they are not getting those needs met for whatever reason, then perhaps you are mismatched and need to find a partner who will suit your needs.
My marriage would be dead without a sexual relationship. If there was a real medical reason for this I would stay with my wife but yes that would be the death of a very important thing. It is not like giving up bowling or the end of the Seinfeld series.
I agree with the conclusion. This is also why I think couples need to talk things out BEFORE marriage. Why they should do His Needs Her Needs BEFORE marriage. Some folks choose to wait for marriage before having sex. Ok fine. But then lets cut them some slack in that they may find they are incompatible.
Spouses do evolve. Changes occur in them and their lives. We see very often that a sexual relationship is very satisfying for a couple for many years and then it falls off. For those folks I feel it is well worth pursuing the reasons for the drop off and trying to get back on track. One spouse saying oh well, that is over seems a bit disengenuous. Almost a bait and switch. There may indeed be real reasons for the changes that have to be factored in. It takes two to work together on this.
If one or the other is not willing to do what it takes to work it out, I believe the marriage they had is over. Because the issues go way beyond just sex.
For still others having children effectively replace thier spouse for ALL of their love and attention. Sometimes it is work that does this.
Marriage needs to be one of seeking happiness together for a couple. We all go through tought times. I do not think marriage is something to be treated lightly. I fully expect that I will be married exactly one time in my life.