BrokenFrag

She is so confused (or evil) at this point that she tells me in the morning that she wants to do the right thing, that she will end it, and that she will do whatever it takes to work on our marriage, and then later that day, when I went out to run some errands, she starts text messaging the guy again. i can't read what she sends because she auto deletes them, but for some reason she keeps what he writes. and it is the type of stuff that if i were doing it, she would get irritated and tell me i am smothering her.

i don't know when to stop believing what she says and to walk away. i keep thinking there is hope for her and us, but i really don't know. and even if she does break it off, how on earth do i ever trust her again? i had to convince her she was doing something wrong. she didn't just stop it when she was caught and is now trying to work it out, she lied to me over and over and over again.

at what point do i stop being a good person trying to help another out and just become a stupid person being played by a fool.

it is so hard to give up on the life i have spent building for 10 years. i have put everything i have into it.

Oh, and her counselor doesn't do relationships, so I highly doubt he would ever tell her to cut him off. My counselor is a family therapist so maybe he could help. His primary goal is to help families stay together.