Originally Posted by desperateguy
I really honestly believe it wasn't her plan. Call me delusional, but I don't think so, I know her, and I also know of stuff she said to others.
Regardless, it is what it is.
Is exposure a legitimate tactic? People will be less sympathetic - "she is separated, she can do what she wants".
24 hours. It was her plan. She decided she was single. But that does not matter. It is what it is. Your choice to make it permanent. Divorce her and move on. She could not wait to become isolated so she could do this. At the very least she wanted a break from being married to explore and play with other men. How fun for her. If you are ok with this then go for it. We all have different boundaries.
I do not believe in separations. This must be the fifth thread about wives who are separating and register on dating sites just this past week. Wow the recruiting for these sites must be really up huh?
Anyway ... separation ... bad idea for most. But you are supposed to be married so no dating other people and especially banging them is frowned upon. YMMV. You are her backup plan.
Instigation, Isolation and Escalation. She was on dating sites in less than 24 hours. Wanting to date other men. Adults do not generally date each other without the expectation of having sex within so many dates. She is married and wanted to date other men. Wasted no time at all. You do the math.
She has no respect for you any more and may have done some of this out of resentement. That is cruel. If you reconsile she will hang this over your head forever as a threat that she can be gone and banging other men anytime she wants. She may just decide to come home and cake eat with these other guys on the side. Yes it is cheating.