Originally Posted by FormerNiceGuy
3. You and your wife should vow to get to the bottom of your own issues and then make a choice about the marriage. I think healthy people can make a difficult choice like this responsibly.
Oh god, if only (for most people), it were that easy! When I've tried to have that kind of conversation with my wife she actually berates me for being so quiet and reasonable about it. Of course, me getting angry and agitated doesn't work any better for her.