Originally Posted by oaksthorne
My H's AP is younger than two of my daughters, and when she enters a room all eyes are on her, even the women's. It makes getting beyond H's A very difficult for me. It makes me feel that he cared more about sexiness and good looks than about our marriage; and that he was willing to risk a D to get it on with "that kind of woman"( he has a propensity for sticking his foot in his mouth too). We have gotten farther apart as the realization of what all this meant has dawned on me. He is a bit panicky about where this is going, I don't know that myself, but sometimes it is just the natural consequences of cake eating to lose it all. He hasn't told me a thing that makes me think that this relationship is something I should cherish as I once did. They always seem to think that they won't get caught and if they do they will be able to limit the damage.
I totally feel this way. That a stranger's looks and age were more important than our marriage and family. How do you cheat on your wife after so many years?!? I suddenly feel like he places more importance on sex than he does his own family. And I never saw him before in that way.