| | Re: Gonna spiral
STBXH told me he wanted to be friends too- you know what that did it allowed him to continue to hurt ME. If you ask it just gives her the power to know that she still has a hold on you/your emotions. I have been able to do a 180 with stbxh and the actual divorce portion has been amicable and we have been able to discus-the divorce issues without any problems- I follow the kids/business only rule- and the divorce is business. Personally, and this is just me because i think 180 needs to be adapted to the individual situations, I will freely talk with stbxh for whatever length of time about the kid or business items, i dont cut it short or try to get him off the phone on those items. Now if he starts complaining about his life or asking about mine conversation is ended.