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unsure78 · 04-20-2012, 08:57 AM

STBXH told me he wanted to be friends too- you know what that did it allowed him to continue to hurt ME. If you ask it just gives her the power to know that she still has a hold on you/your emotions. I have been able to do a 180 with stbxh and the actual divorce portion has been amicable and we have been able to discus-the divorce issues without any problems- I follow the kids/business only rule- and the divorce is business. Personally, and this is just me because i think 180 needs to be adapted to the individual situations, I will freely talk with stbxh for whatever length of time about the kid or business items, i dont cut it short or try to get him off the phone on those items. Now if he starts complaining about his life or asking about mine conversation is ended.

04-20-2012, 08:57 AM	#10 (permalink)
unsure78 Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 963	Re: Gonna spiral STBXH told me he wanted to be friends too- you know what that did it allowed him to continue to hurt ME. If you ask it just gives her the power to know that she still has a hold on you/your emotions. I have been able to do a 180 with stbxh and the actual divorce portion has been amicable and we have been able to discus-the divorce issues without any problems- I follow the kids/business only rule- and the divorce is business. Personally, and this is just me because i think 180 needs to be adapted to the individual situations, I will freely talk with stbxh for whatever length of time about the kid or business items, i dont cut it short or try to get him off the phone on those items. Now if he starts complaining about his life or asking about mine conversation is ended.