Originally Posted by njdad
I consider the 180 and then I think "I don't want to be like that. Cold and indifferent. I don't want to meet bitterness with bitterness. I don't want to detach; to quit. She may have done it, but that's not who I am." Anyone else feel this way? Or is this just co-dependent b.s.?
As mentioned above...I am managing a version of it. One thing though....you DO have to detach, you DO have to quit - romantically
. To not be able to do that is very bad for you. I still do care a lot about my stbx...but not romantically anymore - having a torrid fling with someone a lot younger than me really helped me out on that score!