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Ingalls · 04-20-2012, 10:32 AM

OMG I've been gone for a week from TAM (well reading bits and pieces when I can on the road). 6 pages on this topic took me a while this morning to catch up. I am SOOO GLAD YOU POSTED THIS KK. I hate it. I struggle with this Q daily.

I'm not sure why, but something inside me has "clicked" and for me I decided that my H was not himself. I got the ILYBINILWY speach on DDay. My time towards my business drove him away, all was blamed on me. He is slowly starting to realize this and actually has made comments recently to this effect that he doesn't know why he said that. He would help me and advice me on my business. Suggest the things I needed to do, etc. For months and months he has denied any depression during this time, but during MC she addressed it and he for the first time said he was depressed but can't stand to admit it bc he has lots of pride and blah blah.

Him starting to "see" this is helping me in my process. I'm not good with saying my own words, but I work with music and I jam to the Nicki Minaj "Fly" song LOTS- it's my new life motto.

I won't be the same. Ever. I'm guarded now and I won't let my heart ever get soft. But I DO hope we get back to the place where I can look at him someday with the trust and respect I once had. Otherwise I'm wasting time on working on R.

04-20-2012, 10:32 AM	#79 (permalink)
Ingalls Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 254	Re: Can your spouse truly love you but still cheat on you? OMG I've been gone for a week from TAM (well reading bits and pieces when I can on the road). 6 pages on this topic took me a while this morning to catch up. I am SOOO GLAD YOU POSTED THIS KK. I hate it. I struggle with this Q daily. I'm not sure why, but something inside me has "clicked" and for me I decided that my H was not himself. I got the ILYBINILWY speach on DDay. My time towards my business drove him away, all was blamed on me. He is slowly starting to realize this and actually has made comments recently to this effect that he doesn't know why he said that. He would help me and advice me on my business. Suggest the things I needed to do, etc. For months and months he has denied any depression during this time, but during MC she addressed it and he for the first time said he was depressed but can't stand to admit it bc he has lots of pride and blah blah. Him starting to "see" this is helping me in my process. I'm not good with saying my own words, but I work with music and I jam to the Nicki Minaj "Fly" song LOTS- it's my new life motto. I won't be the same. Ever. I'm guarded now and I won't let my heart ever get soft. But I DO hope we get back to the place where I can look at him someday with the trust and respect I once had. Otherwise I'm wasting time on working on R.