Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Separating or just setting me up for divorce

catlady · 04-14-2008, 07:54 PM

Hey out there. Any responses to this one.
My husband of almost 11 years leaves me 5 days ago stating that he is unhappy, lonely, and says that he wants a separation. He states that he told me about a month ago that he was not happy and that things had to change. Today he claims that I did not take him seriously and that I don't love him anymore (which isn't true).
He has been to the house (in my name) 2x to take items and is going to continue to take items for at least another week or so. For someone who only wants a separation is pretty quick to move everything out don't you think? I also go to find that he has been getting "emotional support" from some woman AND spoke with a marriage counselor without my knowledge. He is also discussing $$$ issues (investments) and how we would divy them up. My friends and family think this is all bull and that he just setting me up that in fact he doesn't make it on his own that he has me to rely on. Did I say that he's turning 50 in June? Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. I am looking to consult with a lawyer to make sure that I don't get taken even though he claims that this is only a separation but doesn't know if the marriage is saveable.

04-14-2008, 07:54 PM	#1 (permalink)
catlady Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1	Separating or just setting me up for divorce Hey out there. Any responses to this one. My husband of almost 11 years leaves me 5 days ago stating that he is unhappy, lonely, and says that he wants a separation. He states that he told me about a month ago that he was not happy and that things had to change. Today he claims that I did not take him seriously and that I don't love him anymore (which isn't true). He has been to the house (in my name) 2x to take items and is going to continue to take items for at least another week or so. For someone who only wants a separation is pretty quick to move everything out don't you think? I also go to find that he has been getting "emotional support" from some woman AND spoke with a marriage counselor without my knowledge. He is also discussing $$$ issues (investments) and how we would divy them up. My friends and family think this is all bull and that he just setting me up that in fact he doesn't make it on his own that he has me to rely on. Did I say that he's turning 50 in June? Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. I am looking to consult with a lawyer to make sure that I don't get taken even though he claims that this is only a separation but doesn't know if the marriage is saveable.