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Originally Posted by Deejo
Not disagreeing that this is a potentially dangerous situation. Just think we need more information.
There is no context around the event. Context paints whether the behavior is a pattern, or as in my case an extremely juvenile reaction to not being heard and feeling hurt, angry, and frustrated.
If he doesn't know how to control his anger, doesn't want to repair the relationship, and won't get help, then it becomes something very different.
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My husband comes from a family that suppresses feelings and I come from one that expresses them. Being from two different cultures doesn't help either - he's Swiss and I'm American. Switzerland is known for it's tranquility, but the price to pay is the higher suicide rate here. I can't suppress my feelings and I do get angry (very) when I feel that my feelings aren't being considered. I give every effort to explain it to him calmly, but he just passively listens, which turns out to be a heated argument with nothing resolved.