GAsoccerman

Well give up on the 1 night stand....that i over and done with and he truly regrets it.

Now witht he porn, As I say to everyone, you should watch it with him, He has obvious fanasties, find out what they are and see if you are interested.

do you have fantasies at all and discussed it with them?

I ahve a female co-worker that has said some really wild stuff to me, mind blowing....almost like verbal porn....And she is married so am I......But I told my wife everything sh told me as in....Can you believe person A said this to me....I also found out the person in the office (female) would liek a 1 night encounter...So I told my wife, My wife was shocked especially when I told my wife it was not me she wanted, but she wanted a 1 night stand with my wife....Shocked is an understatement.

But of course this woman's husband has no idea his wife is interested in other women (BTW my wife is not interested) But hey that is a fantasy of mine I would love to see happen...but it won't (reality bites)

But this co-worker...may be his fantasy outlet.....You my darling need to bring that back in to it being you.

Again said this before....Watch the movies with him, do a little role playing, see what has peaked his interests, maybe it will peak yours.

But I think you can trust him, he did discuss it with you and he wants you involved...now you need to take it a step further. Bring him back as a confident, ahve him tell you his fantasies...then act on them.