| | Re: is it just me?
Separate finances among a married couple sounds fishy to me. What are you saving your money for? Instead of nagging him about buying new sofas, I simply would have used that money to buy some on my own and possibly do some other redecorating.
I don't agree with this, but I sometimes believe that even loved ones will sit on a request and wait for you to do something about it. The more you act dependent on them, the more you lower your prestige in their eyes.
Regarding giving his brother money, yeah, I would be interested in this. How much? Is brother a nice guy to the both of you? Is he generally responsible and so on.