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CantThinkOfAJUserName · 04-15-2008, 06:36 AM

Folks please don't minimize the emotional impact that her then fiance ONS had on her. Yes I agree that it is over and done with, especially for her husband, but it is brand new for her and much like any other fling or affair, she needs to grieve in order to be able to heal. Furthermore, her husband's insensitivity towards her with his porn viewing ("normal" as it may be for some men) is only compounding her hurt.

You need to show your husband in a non-abusive way, how much his revelation and his porn viewing are hurting you. If he cares about you, he will step up to the plate and do the right thing.

04-15-2008, 06:36 AM	#5 (permalink)
CantThinkOfAJUserName Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 26	Re: I just found out about his one night stand that happened years ago... Folks please don't minimize the emotional impact that her then fiance ONS had on her. Yes I agree that it is over and done with, especially for her husband, but it is brand new for her and much like any other fling or affair, she needs to grieve in order to be able to heal. Furthermore, her husband's insensitivity towards her with his porn viewing ("normal" as it may be for some men) is only compounding her hurt. You need to show your husband in a non-abusive way, how much his revelation and his porn viewing are hurting you. If he cares about you, he will step up to the plate and do the right thing.