Re: Looking for help
Depression is a hard thing to deal with, and its probably been made worse by the situation with your wife. All I can say, is give the therapy time to work, and really USE it to get to the root of your issues. If you can do the work on yourself, the changes WILL manifest in your relationship too...I have seen it firsthand with the issues my H has and is now tackling.
Truly, you have to know that IF she felt feelings of what she thought were love for this person, that it was more "puppy love" and infatuation than the type of love that is built on years of togetherness...and her feelings will likely fade as the contact is lost. I KNOW its hard, but she has to have time to reconcile herself to the loss of that relationship...and there is NOTHING you can do to speed that up...which is why I say work on yourself, talk things out with your therapist, and give her a bit of space...not to see him, but so she can get her head straight.
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