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Sandy55 · 07-10-2009, 01:40 PM

As they say: Hindsight is 20/20!

Shoulda.....coulda....woulda...had I ONLY realized she/he was seriously missing something from me.

Now you are here, grappling with fidelity issues.

Sounds to me as if you have a very good grip on what is happening and why. It also sounds as if you and your wife can talk and be mature about the issues plaguing your relationship and that counseling may be helpful and could save your marriage.

I think your coming on this forum and having a place to "vent" is good, but I would do what the marital counselor recommends as the counselor is working with both of you - and can see your marital dynamic first hand.

One thing I think is important to rebuilding trust is transparency and accountability on the part of the spouse who has cheated. You have the right to know anything and everything to make you feel more secure, since she stepped over the fidelity "line", regardless of the reason.

07-10-2009, 01:40 PM	#9 (permalink)
Sandy55 Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,221	Re: Looking for help As they say: Hindsight is 20/20! Shoulda.....coulda....woulda...had I ONLY realized she/he was seriously missing something from me. Now you are here, grappling with fidelity issues. Sounds to me as if you have a very good grip on what is happening and why. It also sounds as if you and your wife can talk and be mature about the issues plaguing your relationship and that counseling may be helpful and could save your marriage. I think your coming on this forum and having a place to "vent" is good, but I would do what the marital counselor recommends as the counselor is working with both of you - and can see your marital dynamic first hand. One thing I think is important to rebuilding trust is transparency and accountability on the part of the spouse who has cheated. You have the right to know anything and everything to make you feel more secure, since she stepped over the fidelity "line", regardless of the reason.