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Jeff, I never said anyone has to see it as I do. You seem to be a bit challenged by this forum. But I do wish to share my perspective. I also wish to understand other peoples perspectives.
It is Talk About Marriage. This particualr topic is very fundamental and important. It is a nice break from talking to people who have already been in the train wreck.
It is my way to ask questions. There is a broad range between asking are opposite sex friends ok and a full blown open marriage. They are infinitley different questions. There is a broad swath in between. So I ask questions about the shades of gray because people can say very similar things and be envisioning quite different things. Folks use vague terms like hanging out with friends. So is this a a way of winking and indicating that there is dating going on? I don't think so. But I could be wrong. It could be that what folks are saying works for them is indeed dating. I am not judging them but I am asking them to be clear about what they mean. I think this is all about real marriages and where folks put their boundaries. So what is ok with opposite sex friends and what is not? Big territory to choose from. Is this not a good forum for folks to clearly state what their boundaries are? That could be very helpful for other folks.
So what does hanging out really mean? I could construe that to mean going over freinds house and cuddling up on the couch together. In a brotherly way of course. But it could be just meeting for lunch. It could mean sleeping on the couch overnight. It could mean meeting with a group of friends.
I do not have to agree with you and you do not have to agree with me. In many ways we validate each other.
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Last edited by Entropy3000; 04-22-2012 at 09:32 PM.