Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Had another D-day yesterday....need advice.

highwood · 04-23-2012, 08:19 AM

Terrible terrible day yesterday...got no sleep last night..called in sick to work.

How it started:

Something kept telling me all week to check his truck so I did yesterday while he was still sleeping...lifted up the backseat and there is a built in storage container..guess what..discovered a laptop! I guess he went out and bought a refurbished laptop for about $75.00.

Started shaking inside and out..took it out and went upstairs and woke him up and confronted him...after about half an hour he admitted that about a month ago he initiated contact with his EA. We were definently going thru a really rough patch the last couple of months..and he said he needed a place to get a respite from our arguments, etc. I was ****ing livid...told him to get the **** out. Everybody I talked to from my sister, etc. thinks I should kick him out even just for a bit..but it is so hard..I love him and want this to work. Plus I know how it has been the last couple of months..lots of tension and anger on my side.

I feel sick inside...he came back and both of us talked thru the night and he was crying, etc. He said it was like he needed that fun flirtatiousness from her because all he got from me was *****ing and anger and resentment. He is going to destroy this laptop this morning in front of me because I told him if he wants this to work we have to have zero contact with her.

Am I fool???

22 year old son is livid..I told him yesterday what his dad did and he is even taking out his anger on me telling me that I am gutless for not kicking him out...I feel like crap..this is even worse than when I first discovered EA last fall.

04-23-2012, 08:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
highwood Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 932	Had another D-day yesterday....need advice. Terrible terrible day yesterday...got no sleep last night..called in sick to work. How it started: Something kept telling me all week to check his truck so I did yesterday while he was still sleeping...lifted up the backseat and there is a built in storage container..guess what..discovered a laptop! I guess he went out and bought a refurbished laptop for about $75.00. Started shaking inside and out..took it out and went upstairs and woke him up and confronted him...after about half an hour he admitted that about a month ago he initiated contact with his EA. We were definently going thru a really rough patch the last couple of months..and he said he needed a place to get a respite from our arguments, etc. I was **ing livid...told him to get the out. Everybody I talked to from my sister, etc. thinks I should kick him out even just for a bit..but it is so hard..I love him and want this to work. Plus I know how it has been the last couple of months..lots of tension and anger on my side. I feel sick inside...he came back and both of us talked thru the night and he was crying, etc. He said it was like he needed that fun flirtatiousness from her because all he got from me was ***ing and anger and resentment. He is going to destroy this laptop this morning in front of me because I told him if he wants this to work we have to have zero contact with her. Am I fool??? 22 year old son is livid..I told him yesterday what his dad did and he is even taking out his anger on me telling me that I am gutless for not kicking him out...I feel like crap..this is even worse than when I first discovered EA last fall.