confused&unhappy

That's the way I took it. That he is not willing to work on it. Not sure why. The only thing I remember is that when we were "just friends" before dating he stated this. Let me preface it by stating that his wife was older than him. He is 39 and he said after she passed he was looking for a younger girl in her twenties maybe not someone older. I am older than him only by a few months. He's very conceited and self absorbed. He used to be all about me now he's all about him. He gets mad when I tell him that my boys are more important than he is. He says "you don't have to keep telling me that I know they are!!" I guess having kids that aren't his and trying to start a new relationship is a challenge. We had to build our relationship and get to know each other whereas my ex and i had our time to do such before the kids came. does that make sense? It was and still is hard to give attention he needs and raise two kids. I don't know. I know the answer it's just taking the first step to leaving I guess. You are all wonderful and have given me some great advise. I would still love feedback as to how to move on.