| | Re: Clubbing all the time...
Cheating is what you and she decide is cheating. For us, anything you wouldn't do in front of the other is cheating.
As far as clubbing? Why do people go clubbing in the first place? To meet others. Drink and hook up. As a married woman, closing bars on the regular is inappropriate. The message she's sending is that she's NOT married or at the very least has an open relationship.
If she doesn't want to talk about it, that's fine. You've probably expressed how concerned you are and it's not like she doesn't know how you feel... her actions are telling you that she doesn't care. Her wants and desires are more important to her than your feelings.
I don't like ultimatums, but it sounds like your wife needs one. Be firm and don't back down. If she doesn't get herself together, be prepared to follow through with the consequences. She's going to continue on with what she's doing because right now the only consequence she has is you getting mad. It's not enough incentive for her to stop.