| | Re: Can single men & women be friends?
I have to be completely honest and say here as a woman that if I know I am looking good and a male friend doesn't comment on it, I get a little upset :-) I'm accustomed, from even grade school, to compliments when I make an effort, so when I make an effort, I like my guy friends to give me feedback. My friend gave me a wet suit, it was a size small, he got it at a yardsale, I was the first person to fit into it and everyone in the kayak club there that day (my guy's friends) said I was most definitely a wetsuit babe. lol. But nobody touches a guy's woman when he is in the hospital and rehab, you can feed her, compliment her, take her out on the river...do all the things your guy friend would do for her if he was there...everything to keep her from feeling in the dumps...and her head above water...but nope, you don't make a move. It's like a code of honor. Nobody would want to be 'that guy' and have to answer up. Now if people don't belong to a community, and have random friends who are unaccounted for and on the fringes, that is a situation that can lead to trouble. Communities and their constructs are important elements of boundary setting.