Beachguy...that sucks! It doesn't sound like she is doing her fair share...
My H lovingly calls this place 'his soft place to fall'. He comes home and the place is clean and tidy and warm. Usually dinner is cooking or on it's way and i have a ribbon in my hair

(or at least i'm clean & tidy with my lippy in place)
I work from home (growing veges/fruit and herbs) and basically do everything on the inside and everything on the outside. My kids have chores to help out but i consider it my job.
Having said that...H does get rid of any dead bodies my cats or dog brings home and he lifts heavy things for me with his enormously strong arms.
I think your getting a raw deal here...