Gratitude

I don't mind tattoo's, but that's my personal opinion and not the same as the OP's. He doesn't like them, and he doesn't have to.

I tried to think of something about my husband I would really, really dislike him doing to himself to the point where it would turn me off. And then if I told him that, and he went ahead and did it anyway how would I feel? I would feel that my opinion as his partner wasn't valued, and he really didn't care what I thought or if I was attracted to him anymore.

This is where I think the OP is coming from. I do understand. It's not about tattoo's. It's about compromise in a relationship. Yes everyone owns their own body, but I personally take into consideration what my husband likes and doesn't like, and vice versa. Do I reflect on him? Absolutely. We're a team. I would override my desire for something I wanted done if it was something he really, really didn't like. I would make that choice for him as his wife to show my love and respect to him as my husband, who supports, loves and provides for us. There are different scenario's if he was constantly being unreasonable or controlling, or it was a burning desire I'd had for 25 years. But in this case, I don't think it's any of those things.

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