04-25-2012, 02:09 AM
Join Date: Oct 2011
| | Re: Everything can change so quickly...
Originally Posted by dauntless
The letter I told her she must write to me prior to any reconciliation attempts must include full disclosure. I don't believe she will hold anything back, because she believes I know more than I do. She is far less sneaky than she thinks she is, and is not very technically inclined. She already believes that I am some kind of wizard/spy for catching her. I am aware of the text message recover programs, though, and will not hesitate to use them should I have any doubts. My #1 priority is protecting myself.
We have no kids.
She is 20, I am 28. We have been married 18 months. A lot of people will say I am foolish for marrying someone so young, but I haven't regretted it until now. That is also probably the primary reason I am willing to reconcile. She is young and young people make foolish mistakes. I made many. As long as she makes the effort and proves she can be honest, then I am willing to attempt the path to forgiveness. I learned a very hard lesson about personal integrity when I was in the Army. I shared that with her, and told her that the only way we will ever have a relationship again is if she does the right thing for the right reason, no matter where I am.
Can't change the past, right? Can only do the best we can with what we have.
I want to reconcile, despite my pain, so long as she is willing to meet my terms and make an effort.
Divorce and remarry when she gets to 25 if you guys are still feeling it. Date in the mean time. Marriage at 18 is almost always bad. I'm pretty sure she wanted to know what else is out there. That is often the cause of cheating in women that married too young. They doubt themselves that they settled and fish for prospects. And they don't find it too hard considering how easy it is for women to find someone interested in them.
Last edited by warlock07; 04-25-2012 at 03:09 AM.