Originally Posted by dauntless

The letter I told her she must write to me prior to any reconciliation attempts must include full disclosure. I don't believe she will hold anything back, because she believes I know more than I do. She is far less sneaky than she thinks she is, and is not very technically inclined. She already believes that I am some kind of wizard/spy for catching her. I am aware of the text message recover programs, though, and will not hesitate to use them should I have any doubts. My #1 priority is protecting myself.

We have no kids.

She is 20, I am 28. We have been married 18 months. A lot of people will say I am foolish for marrying someone so young, but I haven't regretted it until now. That is also probably the primary reason I am willing to reconcile. She is young and young people make foolish mistakes. I made many. As long as she makes the effort and proves she can be honest, then I am willing to attempt the path to forgiveness. I learned a very hard lesson about personal integrity when I was in the Army. I shared that with her, and told her that the only way we will ever have a relationship again is if she does the right thing for the right reason, no matter where I am.

Can't change the past, right? Can only do the best we can with what we have.

I want to reconcile, despite my pain, so long as she is willing to meet my terms and make an effort.