Originally Posted by Ten_year_hubby
Holding on to anger and resentment is like drinking poison and thinking the other person will die.
I love that quote, I told that to my therapist. I felt a lot of anger and resentment towards my wife for her behavior, which was if not abusive, at least borderline. What's worse was that at times I also believed that she was right in abusing me, that I was the problem.,
What I've tried is to direct that energy towards myself and improving myself. Not for anyone else's sake, but for mine. She's doing the same. At least in the short term of half a year or so, it seems to help. Paradoxically, by concentrating on ourselves, we have concentrated on each other. It doesn't feel like it every day though, but there are definitely more good days than there were say a year ago.