swedish

I guess this should be directed towards your husband, but when my husband stopped trying to protect my feelings and his shame about the whole thing and realized we would get no where if he kept telling 1/2 truths, it was only then that I was really able to move forward. And yes, the truth was painful (he would say he didn't know why I wanted to torture myself by asking all these questions) but the obsessive thoughts about what may have happened were much worse. Once I knew the truth, it's upsetting but at least I could process it and move on...no more wondering i wonder if.

It really made me understand what he was missing from me and gave me some sense of control that hey, I'd love to fill that void (we both had to refocus on each other so it's definitely not been one sided as far as our marriage issues go)

Mine sent flowers too...one to her, one to me....nice. I got the 'guilt' bouquet apparently...ugh.