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I have to agree with TKIGuy's words ...his experience. I believe people are either CLEAN about housekeeping or LAX, very few have I seen change in their lives.
My Mother in Law in such a Hoarder, she would blow those people on TV out of the water, how did his dad handle this...he never stayed home..out playing Poker with the guys every night. Funny he came from a family whose houses were so clean & organized, you could eat off the floor , maybe even feel bad if you walked on their carpet.
It was THE LARGEST argument/disconnect in their marriage...but they stayed together. It never changed, she kept hoarding, he would just not stay home, he was embarrassed to have his own relatives come to the house. She was always saying she was tired. Her dad was a messy, and her 2 brothers also were like this, junk collectors.
Thankfully for me, my husband takes after his DAD, or likely I would be screaming !! I hate clutter, I need my house to be "in order" before I can relax. I think people are geared one way or the other.
I have friends, they are both messys.. they are fine with it . I'd be terribly embarrassed if I was them -- but hey, they are great people, would give you the shirt off thier backs.. I love 'em....but I couldn't be married to one of them, it would cause alot of fights.
What is her family members like ???
Is it depression (this can also manifest itself in just loosing interest in household duties)...or is this just a gene in her family -this is how she is geared , she doesn't see these things as issues. If that is the case... you will likely just be banging your head against the wall.
Seems a shame you have to cook though! At least you 2 should work on sharing that responsibility.