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seesah · 04-25-2012, 09:43 PM

Gratitude, I think my biggest issue is not feeling heard. I talk my feelings out and I need quite a bit of affirmation. I just don't get the communication from him like I used to. It's like he expects a negative confrontation with me so when I try and speak to him in the way that I've been taught reduces defensiveness, it doesn't work. I've never been one to be able to stuff my feelings. Doing so affects me in other ways (usually physically) very quickly.

We do have weekend time together and I do cherish that time. I realize that my expectations are high sometimes so having a sounding board is incredibly important for me.

Thanks for the advice.

04-25-2012, 09:43 PM	#3 (permalink)
seesah Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: United States Posts: 102	Re: Stuck Gratitude, I think my biggest issue is not feeling heard. I talk my feelings out and I need quite a bit of affirmation. I just don't get the communication from him like I used to. It's like he expects a negative confrontation with me so when I try and speak to him in the way that I've been taught reduces defensiveness, it doesn't work. I've never been one to be able to stuff my feelings. Doing so affects me in other ways (usually physically) very quickly. We do have weekend time together and I do cherish that time. I realize that my expectations are high sometimes so having a sounding board is incredibly important for me. Thanks for the advice.