Originally Posted by Hope1964

This was something that really affected me too. If my husband cheated, anyone could. Part of the reason I am with him is because he is doing everything possible to prove he WON'T cheat ever again. He doesn't mind when I get jealous - he knows why I'm like that. He doesn't mind when I peek at his email - he knows why I need to do that. He doesn't mind when he has to apologize to me again for what he did - he volunteers it quite a bit. He knows what I need and why, and that what he did will affect me for years to come. The thought of getting through all this on my own, or even worse, hooking up with someone new and having to try to explain to them what I need and why, exhausts me. Someone new would not like it if I peeked at his email or gave other signals of mistrust. My hubby understands me and often knows what I need before I do. The aftereffects of what he did would be with me whether I was alone, with him, or with someone else. I want him to be there with me through it because I think it's easier for me that way.