| | Re: Last Off-Ramp
I talked some with my counselor again today (the one that was previously our marriage counselor, but which my wife refuses to go back to because I "lie"). She said it sounds like my wife is "answer shopping," trying to find a counselor who will take "her side."
She recommended that I approach this situation like this: "I don't think we are ready to resume marriage counseling right now as a couple. We both have issues that probably need to be dealt with on an individual basis. So I think it would be great if you want to start going to your own counselor for now. At some point in the future, we can consider going back as a couple."
She said my wife's reaction to this might be VERY revealing as to whether my wife is willing to work on things or not.