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hurtnohio · 04-27-2012, 07:35 PM

I talked some with my counselor again today (the one that was previously our marriage counselor, but which my wife refuses to go back to because I "lie"). She said it sounds like my wife is "answer shopping," trying to find a counselor who will take "her side."

She recommended that I approach this situation like this: "I don't think we are ready to resume marriage counseling right now as a couple. We both have issues that probably need to be dealt with on an individual basis. So I think it would be great if you want to start going to your own counselor for now. At some point in the future, we can consider going back as a couple."

She said my wife's reaction to this might be VERY revealing as to whether my wife is willing to work on things or not.

04-27-2012, 07:35 PM	#16 (permalink)
hurtnohio Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 353	Re: Last Off-Ramp I talked some with my counselor again today (the one that was previously our marriage counselor, but which my wife refuses to go back to because I "lie"). She said it sounds like my wife is "answer shopping," trying to find a counselor who will take "her side." She recommended that I approach this situation like this: "I don't think we are ready to resume marriage counseling right now as a couple. We both have issues that probably need to be dealt with on an individual basis. So I think it would be great if you want to start going to your own counselor for now. At some point in the future, we can consider going back as a couple." She said my wife's reaction to this might be VERY revealing as to whether my wife is willing to work on things or not.