Originally Posted by OhGeesh
I disagree EXPOSURE is almost always NUCLEAR causing rifts in familys that take years to heal, cause unneeded fights and turmoil, gossip and drama, and almost always paints the WS in a horrible light often before all the facts are known.
IMO< you suck it up and deal with it!! Unless you get divorced then it's fine if everyone knows. All imo!!
I must be an anomaly then, no D yet, my fWS was not demonized by anyone (except my very drunk, very irish friend, who has since apologized for being a dbag and supports the rebuilding effort), there are no rifts in our families, in fact I think our families are closer because of the exposure. It allowed the parents of my fWS to let go of the impossibly high standards they had in place for her and see her as a fallible human being, not some super goddess on a pedestal.
More turmoil and drama would be caused by trying to rug sweep and pretend that things were fine when in fact they were very not fine.
We are a cooperative species for a reason, not all problems in life can be handled "rambo" or "solo." Its ok to ask for help sometimes, not asking for help is what leads to the most problems.