| | Re: Going to church does NOT magically fix everything.
I went to sunday school as a child while my mom attended the sermon. My dad didn't attend church but is a christian. In my teens and adulthood I have never been religious or churchgoing, for a little while around the time I met my W I was looking for some kind of spiritual guidance. When I first started dating my W she attended church, and always went along with church customs but expressed some doubts. After we were engaged and moved to another city for my job we tried a couple churches but were both dissatisfied and stopped going. It felt like a big relief to both of us to not have to subscribe to organized religion. I myself have become more comfortable with not identifying as a christian (though I don't bring this topic up to my mom for fear of breaking her heart) I appreciate the morals and wisdom in the bible and take it as allegory, but I refuse to accept it is the only way to heaven, enlightenment, god, the universe whatever.
Now we are divorced and each have our son half the time, he often talks about my ex going to church. Maybe I lead her away from her spiritual beliefs. A Christian would say its the husbands job to lead his W in Christ, if that is what she needed I couldn't do it for her - but AFAIK that isn't the reason at all my marriage ended, it was because she needed to find lots of rock hard c0ck from confident studs at the bar. So if she finds herself in church I guess that is healthier than doing it at a club, a little.