Re: I am Not Used to Sharing...
wickedlittletown ~ I don't think GAsoccerman meant harm in wha he said. SOmetimes advice on these forums are blunt and often what people don't want to hear. More tact could have gotten his point across better.
As a matter of you being bi I would think there are plenty of fish in the sea that are less dangerous for you to seek out.
Between you and the hubby plus the spare wheel I'd say this. You and your husband need to communicate in a way he is really going to listen to you. It seems he loves you but he is having so much fun all around that he wants his cake, is eating it and doesn't see or does want to see the dangers.
Sit him down in a private sesion with no distractions. With him sitting you should stand and hold his hands. This is a power move that will focus his attention on you and what you are saying. Tell him that you feel she is hurting your relationship and why. That you see your marriage as being in trouble but still very savable and that for the health of the marriage you need to pull away from this woman that never grew up.
You too need to start making a distance from her.
I wish you the best of luck, most men are just dense and the fact he gets so much out of this three way he might find it hard to let go because he is losing out on a freebie.
draconis
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